Components of Healthy Relationships:
Since my childhood, I have been listening to this legend; our lives are affected by the quality of relationships that we keep with our family, partner, and close friends. According to my school of thought, some people condemn this, but after being in a relationship, this legend cannot be overlooked. This is why people always rush for relationship advice. We all have bad days waiting for us, but Don’t ever get discouraged if you are having some difficult time with your life partner.
Always stay motivated and self-determined for future betterment; trust me, these Components of Healthy Relationships tips that I will give you will completely change your love lifestyle because I have been through all this. Get on board with me!
1- Send Encouraging texts to your partner
If you are in a long term relationship, your messages will convert into something like this “can you please get bread and milk on your way back home” or “honey I will get 15 min late”, or maybe a message like this will popup “can you please tell me where are the boxers I can’t find them…”. Ah, the joy of everyday drudgeries with your better half is speechless.
But letting your partner feel important and giving them the sense that you were thinking about them throughout the day can ameliorate your toxic relationship.
Try “have you eaten something honey? I am worried about you”, “babe, best of luck for the meeting” or apart from Anniversaries and special occasions or maybe after a bad day text like this could help “I Miss you My Life, I am preparing dinner for us, can’t wait to see you.” Text like these would show your partner how much you care about them when their slightest victory and downfall.
2- Sweat Together
This advice is to young generation daters, as I know that the bustling city life routine does not allow the married couples this liberty, especially on a weekday but new daters can get befit of it. Going on a traditional coffee, dinner, and movie date is common, but experience something new like going on hiking or joining a boxing class can be more effective. It might seem boring but believe me, this will help you in two ways, it will show your attractive, adventurous side which will make your partner feel more in you.
Secondly, exercising will produce endorphins, which will release stress, pain, and will make you happier while you two are together. This does not matter how long you have been dating or are engaged.
Working out with your better half can increase romantic attraction. We all know there are so many nasty toxins that deposit in our bodies; draining them would improve your mood that will positively impact your love life. This is one of the key components of a healthy relationship.
3- Hold Hands
A recent study found out holding hands causes relational cognitive and neurobiological changes. Wait, what does that mean? According to simple science terminology, holding hands gives you more confidence in your significant partner’s love and support, which will lead to more closeness of the relationship. Think in this manner; holding hands is a sign of primary means to get closer. Let’s take a day-to-day example like a child holding his or her parent’s hand. What does that show? This means he loves and trusts his or her parents; hence holding hands is a natural process to feel loved and secure.
Having hands in the car while watching Netflix with your significant partner will help you make your relationship even stronger. Your partner deserves to feel the comfort of the warmth of your hand in theirs. Show them some love, get up, hold those hands you love the most.
4- Writing Out Insecurities and Doubts
Having insecurities and doubts always harm your Perfect relationship. Trust is the foundation of every relationship; if the foundation is defective, how can the upper structure standstill. In my view, the lack of trust is the primary reason relationships fall apart. What happens when you don’t have trust in your partner, first you will have fighting arguments on loose character, then at the next stage couples would start to feel insecure from each other, in the third stage it would convert into abuse in last they will get separated.
However, to counter this issue, get a pen and paper. Start writing your thoughts about what insecurities you are struggling with within your mind. Then see for logical answers; for example, your partner does not call you at the time they told you they will, now your mind will start thinking of weird things like your partner might be cheating on you or they forget to call you because they don’t love you bla bla bla. After writing it down, think through a logical perspective.
Writing your thoughts will help you identify your unhealthy and illogical thought patterns. Logic out your irrational beliefs, and my advice to you would never jump to negative conclusions until you are damn sure.
5- Cognitive Reappraisal
Psychologists call Cognitive reappraisal exercises “The Marriage Hack.” This is to put yourself in the third person’s shoes. This will help you think from a different perspective, which you might haven’t considered or was unable to see because of your emotions. This will help to understand your partner and help solve problems that could have led to a big disaster.
According to a psychology professor of northwestern, Eli Finkel, “People doing this exercise just once a year sustains quality in their relationship more than normal couples who don’t.” You will not find a better way than this one to develop that dream chemistry between your partner and yourself.
6- Make Eye Contact
I know this sounds silly, but it is simple as it sounds. Making eye contact can build trust and positive feelings for each other. Make it a habit of taking your eyes off from Instagram, Snapchat stories, and seeing in your partner’s eyes while saying something will make both of you feel important to each other because eye contact subconsciously shows to another person you are interested in. After all, it is a potential sign of attraction. Remember, wise people, say that eyes make a way directly to the soul.
7- Practice Listening over Speaking
I would not hide this fact, and I hope you all will agree with me on this one that we all rush to speak rather than to listen to what others have to say. We’re all guilty of it: listening only enough so that we will formulate our response. You can get away with this kind of attitude in short-term relationships, but you need to listen to your better half actively for a long-term relationship. Why? Because of two reasons, this will make your partner feel important as listening is counted as a loving gesture. Secondly, while letting the other person speak will let you know about his or her thoughts, psychology says that a person expresses what is in his mind. By this, you can observe what your partner demands from you.
After you get what your partner is demanding, hold his or her hand. Ask her and clarify all that you heard. Giving people your undivided attention helps you to raise communication and makes them feel heard. It may take some time and practice, but trust me, it will be worthwhile in the end.
I believe that the more you find things to be grateful for, the more good things seem to see you. Gratitude becomes a powerful energetic, emotional substance when it reacts with a feeling called love, and there is no doubt that they multiply each other. Don’t get shocked when I say this on another level, that Gratitude is identical to love.
Gratitude is one of the most important secrets of happy couples. Try to appreciate your partner by giving a compliment or sometimes giving surprises to your partner. For me, this is the most important component of a healthy relationship. Expressing a random “thank you” when they do not expect it will make your relationship more felicitous.
9- Schedule Couple Time
Relationships and dating demand time regardless of whether it is short-term or long-term. You have to take some time off from your busy day-to-day routine to save your relationship. The best way to do this is by taking a day off from your work. If you can’t do so, then the best way to spend quality time is by having a coffee together before or after work. In my view, you should have a coffee time before work because in the morning you are more energetic and more stress-free than in the evening.
Having a glass of wine after children go to sleep or involving your spouse to help you with work assignments might prove useful. I know that spending time alone might not prove to be romantic, but it is damn important for relationships as it will help eliminate unnecessary doubts in your partner’s mind (you know what I mean). This is one of the critical components of healthy relationships.
10- Creating a Habit of “Hello” and “Goodbye” Rituals
Ah, this is easily one finally but is more powerful than it seems. Saying these two words is quick, doesn’t require any of your efforts, does not need a person to mean it, and has a special feature to change your partner’s mood even after a stressful day. Make it a habit.
All partners need to know how much you love, care, and respect them. Such customs were made to bring people closer; won’t you like your partner coming closer to you? Plus, having adopted these love-loaded formalities would portray you and your partner as a perfect couple in the club or a circle of friends.
11- Keep Things Spiced Up!
The rituals above add sweetness to your love life, but who likes a uniform life? There always needs to be some spice. Yes! You’re thinking it right…leave the seductive text for your partner. In a gathering, text them, ‘let’s go to bed early tonight…’ wait and watch; you will have the best night ahead. A little spiciness in the bed always works great.
Look flaming hot, sizzling, and appealing in bed, try different flavors too, trying new sex toys, sexy lingerie, role-plays, bondage, taking control in bed, and becoming a sexy mistress never goes wrong. Make every time you get closer more memorable than the last time, make your partner crave for more and more. Make them fall in love with this side of yours, and trust me; they will always have more appetite for love every time.
12- Never Focus on Others!
This world has so many beautiful people who make it no less than a nirvana Xerox. However, you will find those too who will turn your love island into hell. Do not focus on such people. Never pay attention to a gossip maker who would make you feel like all other partners do a lot more than mine.’ It would help if you remembered that we all have limited resources. Even Bill Gates cannot buy an ocean; he has limits too. Your partner has some limitations; always be thankful for what they manage to do within their available budget to make you happy. Nevertheless, that’s all they want.
There is nothing as fragile as a trust on earth. It would be best if you kept your eyes open for the people who would give you an eyewash and try crumbling your faith in your partner. Just ask your partner right in the face about any concern you have about them. Believe in them, do your investigation if you do not feel like trusting them. When Adam and Eve can make a mistake, your partner is just an ordinary human. Forgiving their little wrongs would add up a lot more love between you two. This is the key to a good relationship.
13- Nurture Your Self-Love
You will realize this as you grow old because as you grew old, you’re feeling for your partner will be fading away. No need to worry about this is perfectly natural. But this quote seems so real to me than any other, “if you don’t love yourself, you would not have the love life you want.” I chose this quote because if you don’t love yourself, you are also short of self-respect and self-condolence.
The absence of these fundamental feelings for yourself will lead you to an environment where you will tolerate miss treatment too easily. If you love yourself, this will automatically make you love your other significant half. It will naturally demand others to respect your partner. This will play a massive part in making each other even closer.
If you want to keep your relationship happy then follow these 13 fundamental components of a healthy relationship. These are the things needed for a healthy relationship.